"The middle class families [Annette Lareau] observed followed a strategy that she called 'concerted cultivation.' The parents in these families considered a child's development to be a parent's responsibility, and so they planned and scheduled countless activities to enhance that development - piano lessons, soccer games, trips to the museums. They engaged their children in conversation as equals, treating them like apprentice adults, and encouraged them to ask questions and challenge assumptions and negotiate rules. They taught them how to navigate institutions and get what they needed from professionals like doctors and teachers." (p49)Why does concerted cultivation matter?
Perhaps the most important word in Lareau's analysis is the word "responsibility." There are two premises that underlie the idea of responsibility. First is that actions have consequences. (Although that may seem painfully obvious, it needs to be stated.) Second, is that nurture matters. If either of these are not true, then "responsibility" in the sense that Lareau is using it is meaningless.
Actions Have Consequences
It is utterly essential that parents understand that they play the most important role in their child's life. Parents' actions have consequences for themselves and their children. The parent who chooses to turn off the television in order to sit on the floor and build a tower with his child is nurturing a relationship that will last a lifetime. The parent who sets a routine of reading children's literature together before bed demonstrates a value for stories, imagination and meaning that is contagious. Parents' actions - particularly the daily repeated actions - have consequences.
Nurture Matters
What parents have known intuitively for generations, science is now confirming. A recent study found that "kids from lower socioeconomic levels show brain physiology patterns similar to someone who actually had damage in the frontal lobe as an adult." In other words, where parents provide loving nurture, the brain develops in normal and healthy ways. Where loving nurture is lacking, brain growth can be stunted. More than that, in the absence of loving nurture, relationships are impoverished - regardless of income level.
Opportunity and Practice
The consequences of concerted cultivation are not surprising. How many people have been able to play a Bach concerto the first time they sat at a piano? How many children have ridden a two-wheeler on their first attempt? Virtually every skill depends on opportunity and practice. Concerted cultivation is intentionally providing age-appopriate opportunities to try new activities, and providing the opportunity for practice. When parents consider their children's development to be their responsibility to nurture, providing these opportunities is both natural and fun.
Considering the consequences of concerted cultivation, the pressing question is: How do we persuade parents of all social strata that nurturing their children is their responsibility?